Happy Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is a time to recognize, honor, and celebrate motherhood, the maternal bond between mother and child and the positive influence and contributions of mothers in society.
Many people celebrated mother’s day this year with an elderly mother. For those of you who did, you may have noticed that the gifts or favors mom used to enjoy long ago, have been replaced with the joy of spending time with relatives. You may also have noticed that medical needs have been amplified and decisions have to be made. Things that once were easy for mom, like walking up and down stairs or opening jars may have become more challenging since you last saw her. Now, it may be unsafe for her to continue driving. Can mom continue living independently? Should you help her move into an assisted living facility? These are questions that a care manager can help answer. Most people don’t even know their options and many make rash decisions that can impact their relationship.
Having a conversation with your mother about her circumstances can be very difficult. But would she feel more at ease if an aide visited a couple of times throughout the week? Maybe she has legal questions. Or maybe she just needs help with some simple housecleaning. As a daughter or son, you can ease these concerns by being a source of support. Creating a dialog with the care manager who has “been there before” can be invaluable in making the most of your time with mom. People often hire professionals to help with things we may not be familiar with, like building a house or curing an illness. So why not hire a professional for the aging process?
Make sure to take notice of your mother’s mood and ask how she is feeling. A drastically different mood could be a sign of depression or other health concerns. Make sure to talk with your mother about her activities. Does she connect with friends? Does she have any interests or hobbies? Listening to your mom about her situation is a gift in itself. Remember to be patient with her as she was with you growing up.
Ask her to help you out. Your mother wants to feel like she is still needed. So ask her for advice! Tell her that you want her to continue enjoying herself and you have some ideas that can help.
Remember that now is a great time to give her a call with the rush of the holiday over. You have a fresh idea of the situation in mind. Also, remember that your love and support is what makes mother’s day so special.
So, a Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers out there!